Trevor's 26th Birthday I Love You List

Today is Trevor’s 26^th birthday. In honor of his birthday, him and for posterity’s sake – here are the top 26 things I love most about Trevor Craig Schauerhamer.

1. He stands up for me. One time when we went sledding with Bob and Taylor, this guy yelled at me because I fell over on the conveyor belt when it suddenly stopped. Apparently he takes his job very seriously. Trevor yelled back at him, “she fell down – she’s getting up!” While yelling at people in general is probably not the best idea – it was nice that no matter how lame the circumstance, he’s got my back. This whole wedding planning has been really stressful on me. If I’ve ever expressed to him a certain need (ie – a day without wedding talk, wanting to do something a certain way when people want me to do something else) he stands up for me. He will talk to whoever is at the root of my stress and tell them I’m stressed and can they please give me some breathing room.  I appreciate that so much. All I have to do is tell him I’m uncomfortable with something or stressed or whatever, and he proactively will try to mitigate it for me. 
2. He doesn’t get mad. We never fight. We definitely disagree and he definitely makes me frustrated/sad at times, but it never escalates. We discuss whatever it is, and move on. 
3. He doesn’t let much bother him and he lets things go quickly. Like lightning. I can be super annoying or get upset at him and it doesn’t faze him. We discuss it and it’s done, over. No holding grudges, no dwelling on it. 
4. He’s tender! My mom has seen my dad cry once in their whole marriage (and oddly enough it was at a commercial. An Indian commercial on littering). Trevor cries and shows emotion. And when I say cry, his eyes mist up – not my version of cry which is ugly cry. He man cries. If he hurts me (emotionally – don’t worry he’s not a wife beater), during a tender part in a movie, with his family, weddings, etc – he cries. I love knowing that if I come to him with a concern, feeling hurt or whatever it is that has happened, he loves me so much and will show emotion instead of just telling me to “buck up” or refuse to take accountability for hurting me. 
5. His LAUGH. He has the best laugh in the entire WORLD. His basic laugh is good – but when you get him really going, it transforms and is SO CONTAGIOUS and I can’t get enough of it. 
6. He’s SO WEIRD. Seriously. So weird. He says and does the weirdest stuff. I love it! We will just be walking or talking and out will come this crazy statement, weird dance move or something of the kind. 
7. I am weird when I’m with him. He allows me to be fully me. I don’t hold back with him. I say and do weird stuff too, because he makes me feel comfortable, loved and safe to be me always, in every form. He accepts me for who I am. He has no desire for me to be any different than I am (of course I can be better – life is about supporting each other to become better, and he does do this so well! He makes me want to be better). 
8. We have so much fun together. Everything we do ends up being fun because we just have so much fun together. Our lives are never boring, that is for sure. We have the most absurd conversations but they are my favorite. We dance weird together. When I’m not paying attention he’ll blow over my nose which makes the air come out of my mouth and it makes this weird noise and feels really really weird. Or he’ll lick my face. Gross, right? I probably do those things to him too. I’ve always known the guy I marry, we need to have fun together like with a best friend. Samar and I have so much fun together no matter what we do, because we are best friends and so similar.  I knew I needed to find a guy that I have so much fun with like that, and then add the romantic side. With Trevor that is just how it is. 
9. He’s my best friend. He’s the first person I talk to in the morning and the last person I talk to at night. I tell him everything. All about my day, my fears, my desires. I don’t hold anything back. If something happens, he’s the first person I tell. When I am sad or sick, he’s the only person I want to see. When I get home from work the first thing I want is a hug from him, and that makes everything better. 
10. We laugh together. This goes with having so much fun together. But specifically, we laugh. Nonstop, all the time. Over everything. I’ve never laughed more with anyone in my life than with Trevor. 
11. He makes me laugh. Every day. Whether it’s something weird he said or did, his crazy dance moves, one of his awesome jokes. Every day he makes me laugh. 
12.  He is the best cuddler ever. And he loves cuddling. 
13. How I fit in his arms. 
14. How safe I feel with him. I’m never concerned for my safety with him around. I feel safe and protected in every sense possible. 
15. Our shows. I love having shows with him we watch. We look forward to cuddling, having down time and enjoying our favorite shows. 
16. He is such an example to me. Many of his strengths are definitely my weaknesses. I tend to get mad at him quicker over dumb stuff, hold on to things, STRESS about EVERYTHING, be in a hurry, etc. And he is always showing me what a truly Christ like attitude/person is like. He doesn’t sweat the small stuff. He lets things go so quickly. He takes life as it comes. He enjoys the little things. He is always showing me through his examples ways I need to improve. 
17. He honors his Priesthood and his callings. He attends church every week. He is reliable!!! He attends FHE (dragging me along with him), Temple nights. He’s the Sunday School President and he takes that seriously and is doing a great job.
18. He is so simple. This used to drive me nuts. I’d ask him childhood stories or crazy football experiences or how he felt about something and his answer is always something along the lines of “nothing” or “can’t remember anything really”. DRIVE ME CRAZY! I have all these emotions and feelings and stories and all this chaoticness going on all the time, and he’s my calm in the storm. Where I choose to remember all these things and bring them up years later (whether it’s a funny story or harbored frustrations or whatever) he just lets it all go. I am so amazed and love that about him. It’s an incredible gift and talent he has. One time when I was in my “hurry” mode (and for no good reason – we had nowhere to go) he said to me, “why can’t you just exist in this moment with me?” He also called me a kill joy. OUCH! But he’s so right. He has this gift of just enjoying the here and now. letting the past go and not stressing about the future.
19. Everyone loves him. Seriously. Everyone that we meet together just loves him. People I meet he has known for a while (ward members, neighbors, old bishops, friends) just can’t say enough good about him. His family adores him.
20. I love watching him interact with people. He just talks effortlessly and loves getting to know new people. He doesn’t judge them based off appearances or preconceived notions. He’s won over all my friends and family with ease. Everyone always tells me after seeing his picture or meeting him that he just seems so nice. And that is exactly Trever. He is just what he seems. No pretenses, no facades. He’s good, happy and nice.
21. He is always happy. He rarely gets down, stressed, upset, angry, mad… he’s just a happy guy. Such a good example to me. he doesn’t let outside things dictate his happiness. I was upset over something the other day that was a legitimate thing to get upset over. His reaction to me was, “life is 10% what happens to you and 90% what you make of it”. While that was the last thing I wanted to hear and didn’t go over well at the time, he’s so right. That is the principle he lives by.
22. He will be such an incredible Dad. He loves babies and kids. I cannot wait to see him with our first child. Our kids will be so beyond blessed to have Trevor as their father. There is no other man in the world I’d rather have raise my kids. 
23. He respects me and supports me. He would never try to get me to do something I didn’t want to or wasn’t comfortable with (again, learning and stretching is important – I’m not talking about those kinds of things). Chastity before marriage isn’t the easiest thing, especially when you are engaged. But Trevor has never, not once done anything that is wrong. He’s never tried to see what I will let him get away with. If my shirt comes up ever, he doesn’t even use that as an opportunity, he pulls it straight down. I know without a doubt that he respects me and loves me. He shows me that is so many ways. Right now one of the primary ways is through the law of chastity.
24. I know Trevor loves me unconditionally. Even with some close friends, I don’t tell them my deepest fears or thoughts, for fear they’d judge me or think less of me. But with Trevor, I know nothing I could say or do would change the way he feels about me. 
25. I love how he is already presiding in righteousness over our relationship. We pray together nightly and have scripture study. He never lets us forget to pray. It shows me how much he values me, our relationship and the role he wants Heavenly Father to play in our relationship.
26. He encourages us to be better. Ways we can improve together and individually to make us stronger as individuals and as a couple. For example, he suggested the other day we never gossip. We rarely do, but occasionally we’ll say something. I love how he heard something in church and thought about if it was applicable to us, if it could make our relationship stronger and more wholesome.

He is not perfect. But he is perfect for me.

I love you, Trev the Lev! Happy Birthday!!